Relationship is when two people come together for a common desire. The space between those two people is called intimacy. Increase the common desire and your relationship evolves. Decrease the space between and your intimacy grows. Relationship and Intimacy are not always congruent. Sometimes this is acceptable, and actually preferred. Sometimes this is painful, and awful to be living through. Often, there is just an underlying ache that it could be – different.
Different. In an intimate relationship “different” can be a word wrought with unintentional implications and unexamined needs. Different can also be fresh kindling on the embers of your passion and love.
These couples services provide for a wide variety of diversity within both domains of relationship and intimacy. These services are purposefully very “different” than what you would receive in relationship or divorce counselling. Inviting you and your loved one to become clearer in what you both want, and escorting you into a richer expression of your communion.
If you are unclear what program might be best for you as a couple simply contact James to discuss options. All genders and sexual orientations, married or partnered couples, are welcome. Alternative relationship arrangements are also invited.
Relationship Go-Between
Sometimes it is hard to express yourself to your intimate partner. There may specific things that need to be explained, or generalized feelings that would be beneficial if mutually understood. You want to be thoughtful about your mate, you don’t want her to get hurt, you don’t want him to be pouty, yet, you really need him or her to “get you” in a manner that currently seems to be eluding you both. The is the time for a Relationship Go-Between.
Benefits
- Express yourself freely about what is going on in your relationship
- Trust that your message and feelings will be conveyed clearly to your partner
- Discover the “other side of the story” in a safe and comfortable manner
- Release your efforts, let go of your burdens in trying effectively communicate
- Connect again to your partner in a more loving, relaxed, and enjoyable fashion
Format
Four one-hour sessions – I speak to partner one first, hearing him/her, learning what is up for them, I speak to partner two next, listening to what s/he has to say, I create a relationship development plan, I then speak to partner one again, and then partner two, offering each of you your own aspects of the plan. Follow-up session can be provided one-on-one or as a couple.
- For married and non-married couples
- All genders and sexual orientations welcome.
- Plan is created, yet no formal program or practices are designed
- Both of you must be committed to the process before you contact me
- Phone, Skype, in person
Sexual Intimacy Enhancement
Intimacy, like any human activity can be cultivated, practiced, and deepened. Brought alive through sexuality, intimacy is the endless ecstatic art of pleasure, awe, awakening, and love.
Your sexual intimacy may be lacking, may be routine and boring, or you may simply not know what the next step is – where to go from here. Deeper sexual intimacy can save marriages, introduce you to aspects of your partner you had no idea existed, and bring you to the endless edge of ecstasy over and over again. If there is at least a spark of love between you, then Sexual Intimacy Enhancement will stoke the coals and get the fires roaring.
Based within the domains of sexual yoga (hindu, taoist, tantric), a Sexual Intimacy Enhancement session helps you cultivate a heart-based embodied sexual intimacy practice with each other. We will discuss what you want to achieve, where you want to get to, and what you’d like to experience in your sexual union. From there you will be led through specific instructions and practices that will enhance your sexual capacity and intimacy. Both partners must be involved in this 90 minute session, and be ready to participate. Though personal edges will be reached and emotional challenges may arise, this is not a therapy /counselling session. We will, however, work with whatever arises as an aspect and expression of your intimacy.
Sessions are completely private, professional, and appropriate. There is often no necessity for nudity to establish the initial instructions and practices. Before booking a session I will have a quick talk with each partner to discover where each of you currently are in your sexual expression, what you want to achieve, and the desire of your participation in the session. I will not book a session if I believe one partner is trying to coerce the other person into attending – both participants must desire to be involved.
When you and your partner realize that more fulfilling sexual intimacy is the path for deepening your connection, bliss, and glory as a couple, the time for Enhancement has arrived.
- All genders and sexual orientations welcome.
- In person is the preferred method
- Skype also possible
Couples Comprehensive Coaching Program
This the most sophisticated relationship coaching program on the market. Found world-wide, cross-culturally, in all sectors of society the classic Integral Coaching® design uses a format that is based on a vast scope of methodological rigor and the depth of practitioner embodiment. This well researched design supports, holds, and encourages you and your partner in your relational development, while consistently drawing you both into an enticing new way of being together. An extensively customized program leads you both together through a comprehensive process determined to bring you in the heart of exactly what you two want to achieve.
A Couples Comprehensive Coaching Program is designed based on your current situation – what both of you want to achieve – deepened as a workable topic with specific objectives. The program is consistently calibrated to maximize your growth as a couple over a specific time period
This style of program benefits three types of couples:
- Those who know exactly what they want to achieve yet don’t know how to get there
- Those who are running into challenges in the growth of their relationship
- Those who know something needs to change, yet are unclear what and how exactly to accomplish that
Format
- The three of us will meet once every two to three weeks
- The exact program length will vary depending on what you wish to accomplish
- We collaboratively establish specific objectives to measure the outcomes of your program
- Regular practices are designed to build the capacities you’ll require to start moving towards your relational goals
- Practices will be specific for both of you as individual and together as a couple
- Both of your commitments is paramount to the success of your couples program
- All genders and sexual orientations welcome.
- First two sessions regularly 1.5-2h in length
- subsequent sessions 1-1.5h in length
- Phone, Skype, in person
Your Couples Coaching Program may include aspects of Relationship Go-Between and the Sexual Intimacy Enhancement programs as elements within the larger program. We’ll get a better idea of this once we determine what exactly you wish to cultivate as a couple.
Lifestyle Redirection
Habits and patterns run deep, especially in long-term relationships. When you are so ingrained in your lives together, it can be very challenging to know what “new” you can try, let alone know how or when to do it. A Lifestyle Redirection takes a close deep look at how you two are really together – providing insights, suggestions, and practices to bring you out of your patterns long enough to start creating a redirection in your life.
This package is very intimate, in that I will come to your home and spend some time with you as a couple. The scope of what you want to work on, and the depth of change you want to create will dictate the length of my visit. Sometimes a few hours will be enough to offer you something significant. Other times, the whole weekend will be necessary to dig into the dimensions of your patterns together. I may come over for a couple evenings during the week to get a sense of what is needed for relational redirection. After an initial phone/Skype call with both of you I will be able to estimate the time length and cost for your Lifestyle Redirection.
While you may think that the time I spend with you would be “in-authentic” or “not like real life”, you’d be amazed at how quickly your relational patterns will become apparent. Then the fun begins – to see how easily you are able to, and also really up for, trying something new. This is real-life practice, in the moment, working with your “stuff” right now. Very powerful, challenging, and confronting.
When you both have decided that you need an unbiased third-party to step in and start working with the patterns of your current life together, then definitely give me a call about a Lifestyle Redirection. Very different than a Relationship Go-Between in that the three of us are working together real-time with your real-life “stuff”, and will stick with it until you get it. Also, not the same as a Sexual Intimacy Enhancement, such that your Lifestyle Redirection often is tangental to your sex life.
Practices will be offered in the moment, and some follow-up will be presented to you. No formal practices or programs will be created, though some may organically arise. If after our time together as a couple you believe starting a Couples Comprehensive Coaching Program would be beneficial, then I’ll take our time together into account to start creating a program for you.
Lifestyle Redirection – real life, real “stuff”, real intimacy.
- All genders and sexual orientations welcome.
- In person only.
Profound Edge Relationship Weekend Adventure
Instead of trying to figure out “what’s next for us in relationship”, “what’s important to us in our intimacy”, or “where can we really go together” – you and your partner can have an adventure to discover it! Together you can step into an unknown space and time to discover the awaiting profoundness of your life.
The Profound Edge Relationship Weekend takes you into the unknowns of your relational world, by making you show up together in ways that you could never imagine. What drives your choices, your insights, your motivations as individuals, and as a couple – this will all be examined. The way you two move, the way you two relate, the way you two comprehend life and each other will be shown to you. What is important in your life – as an individual and as a couple – will become much more apparent, and much more available to you together.
Each Profound Edge Relationship Weekend is uniquely personally designed. Like walking into your own “Choose Your Own Adventure” movie you will run into all styles and shapes of possibilities and experiences. The weekend is created to assist you both in discovering what is profound for you as a couple, as well as discover why you have not known it or claimed it before.
An initial pre-assessment is completed with both of you in order to determine if this adventure is really what would be of most benefit to your relationship. If it is, then possible dates will be discussed. Following that, weeks in advance of the actual weekend, you’ll both be brought through a thorough assessment to discuss what you both wish to gain from the adventure, and to also determine what you honestly need to achieve with each other over the course of the weekend. Every aspect of your life is accounted for, no area of life is taboo.
Together and individually – you will be challenged. You will be pushed. You will shake your head in disbelief. On the other side of your Profound Edge Relationship Weekend you will be relationally stretched – and – you will be happy to have cultivated your profound togetherness.
The foundation cost of the Profound Edge Relationship Weekend Adventure is $16,995 CDN + your personal expenses. After your personal assessment is complete a more exact budget will be offered for your review.
